The Thumb: Always give “thumbs-up” to yourself and never turn your thumbs down. Recognize your efforts and even the smallest successes to keep your spirit up! Give yourself the praise you deserve! Don’t be stingy. Be kind with yourself! In ancient Rome, turning the thumb down meant the merciless crowd wanted someone who could have lived on to die. Don’t turn the thumb down at yourself! Do not be cruel and unforgiving with yourself after a lost battle. Instead, value your attempts, however successful or unsuccessful they might have been, to survive and thrive in a world that can be harsh and cold sometimes. Be warm, soft and generous with yourself! Give yourself a million thumbs-up and never turn your thumb down! Give yourself a second chance. Always!
The Index Finger: We use this finger for pointing at someone or something. In difficult times, don’t point at yourself and torment your spirit with self-blame. Point at others only if they are truly responsible for your problem. Rather point upwards! Point towards your most positive values and beliefs that give you a sense of meaning and purpose in life. Orientate yourself towards what is most important and truly matters: Love, kindness, optimism, hope, confidence, companionship, you name it. Don’t point at yourself or others. Point at the better path to take from wherever you are right now.
Middle Finger: We all know what it means to show the middle finger to someone. So don’t do it. Not literally perhaps. But metaphorically. There are situations when it is necessary to protect yourself, stand-up and fight. Letting others treat you disrespectfully will inevitably take a toll on your self-respect. In fact, being a people’s pleaser, avoiding confrontations and maintaining fake harmony at all costs is unpleasant and mentally costly. It will create disharmony with yourself that is difficult to escape from. The middle finger shall remind you that positive self-regard can only be maintained if you assert yourself, reject unrelentingly high standards and expectations from others. Use it as a reminder to stop others if they are attempting to cross your boundaries. Protect your self-esteem by asserting your right to say no.
Ring Finger: This beautiful finger shall be your constant reminder that you want to give yourself unconditional love and acceptance. Forever! It is like the Christian wedding vows “to have and to hold, for better or worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health to love and to cherish until the end of your life! Regardless of how much achieve or produce. Whether you fail or succeed. No matter who may abandon or let you down. It is the firm and irrevocable promise that you will never ever abandon yourself nor let yourself down ever!!!! Your ring finger is the commitment to love yourself for who you are as imperfect and vulnerable human being. And not to measure your self-worth, discredit or devalue it for whatever reason, as your worth as a person is invaluable and incommensurable.
Little Finger: Your pinkie is the smallest finger which can be easily neglected. Let it serve you as reminder of what you tend to overlook and underappreciate in your pursuit of climbing higher and higher on the ladder of success. Asked which finger people would sacrifice, if they had to choose one out of the five, most individuals would go for pinkie. Don’t! Pinkie is crucial for your grip strength and losing it would mean up to 33% of strength loss according to research carried out by the University of Western Ontario. It’s precisely about those aspects of life you may not pay enough attention to always to ready sacrifice: proper time to sleep, rest, self-reward, spend quality time with your loved ones, etc. Life does not equal work! Pay respect to your pinkie and hold on to the tiny things that make a huge difference!
Give yourself thumbs up and be generous with praise. Keep pivoting towards what really matters to you. Protect your boundaries and learn to say “no”. Stay be your side und commit to unconditional self-love and acceptance. Cherish small things that make a life worth living.